tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33188778380968750742024-03-13T08:25:48.971-07:00ZEN INSPIRATIONkalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comBlogger1145125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-5027817133925276812013-07-17T00:10:00.001-07:002013-07-17T00:10:49.157-07:004 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure<a name='more'></a> <p><strong>1. Accept that failure is a reality.</strong> <br />Let’s be real here. No matter how much you learn and move forward from a failure in life, the fact of the matter is that failure does happen – even to the best of us. But you know what? Who cares! I’ve personally found that as soon as you accept failure as a reality, it won’t be this big, frightening thing that you once thought it was. You’d be surprised at how much freedom that gives you to move forward, try new things, and experience successes you might not have otherwise.</p> <p><strong>2.Remember past failures.</strong> <br />No really – think about the last failure you had in life. Did your world come crashing down around you? Even if it did (it has for me), chances are you’ve moved on, gotten past it, and have become stronger and wiser because of it. So the next time you find yourself not taking a certain chance or being crippled by the fear of failure, remember that you’ve overcome failure before…and you will again.</p> <p><strong>3.Listen to other people’s stories.</strong> <br />Something that has always encouraged me when it comes to taking risks despite the threat of failure is learning the stories of people who have achieved great things, or at least have gone through similar situations. Some of the biggest innovators and most successful people will admit to having gone through multiple failures before arriving to where they are now. The reason why brings me to my last point…</p> <p><strong>4.Learn, reflect, and learn some more.</strong> <br />You can study and memorize facts all day long, but there’s nothing that compares to the learning that comes from personal experience. Like I said before, failure is just a part of life – the key is how you deal with it. Not only is overcoming failure a huge step in building character, but reflecting on how and why the failure took place is what will set you up for success moving forward.</p> <p>Via <a href="http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2013/07/15/4-ways-to-overcome-the-fear-of-failure/" target="_blank">Paulo Coelho’s blog</a> <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gracie-gordon/4-ways-to-overcome-the-fear-of-failure_b_3354314.html"><em><strong>by Grace Gordon, Huffington Post</strong></em></a> <em>Read the full text by <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gracie-gordon/4-ways-to-overcome-the-fear-of-failure_b_3354314.html">CLICKING HERE</a></em></p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-3312857838510121652013-07-06T22:45:00.001-07:002013-07-06T22:45:09.135-07:00De-perception by Thanissaro Bhikkhu<p>Meditation teaches you the power of your perceptions. You come to see how the labels you apply to things, the images with which you visualize things, have a huge influence over what you see, how they can weigh you down with suffering and stress. As the meditation develops, though, it gives you the tools you need to gain freedom from that influence.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>In the beginning, when you first notice the power of perception, you can easily feel overwhelmed by how pervasive it is. Suppose you're focusing on the breath. There comes a point when you begin to wonder whether you're focusing on the breath itself or on your <i>idea</i>of the breath. Once this question arises, the normal reaction is to try to get around the idea to the raw sensation behind it. But if you're really sensitive as you do this, you'll notice that you're simply replacing one caricature of the breath with another, more subtle one. Even the raw sensation of breathing is shaped by how you conceptualize raw sensation. No matter how hard you try to pin down an unfiltered experience of breathing, you still find it shaped by your idea of what breathing actually is. The more you pursue the reality of the breath, the more it recedes like a mirage.</p> <p>The trick here is to turn this fact to your advantage. After all, you're not meditating to get to the breath. You're meditating to understand the processes leading to suffering so that you can put an end to them. The way you relate to your perceptions is part of these processes, so <i>that's</i> what you want to see. You have to treat your experience of the breath, not as an end in itself, but as a tool for understanding the role of perception in creating suffering and stress.</p> <p>You do this by de-perception: questioning your assumptions about breathing, deliberately changing those assumptions, and observing what happens as a result. Now, without the proper context, de-perception could easily wander off into random abstractions. So you take the practice of concentration as your context, providing de-perception both with a general direction and with particular tasks that force it to bump up against the operative assumptions that actually shape your experience of the present.</p> <p>The general direction lies in trying to bring the mind to deeper and more long-lasting levels of stillness so as to eliminate more and more subtle levels of stress. You're not trying to prove which perceptions of the breath depict it most truly, but simply which ones work best in which situations for eliminating stress. The objectivity you're looking for is not the objectivity of the breath, but the objectivity of cause and effect.</p> <p>The particular tasks that teach you these lessons begin with the task of trying to get the mind to stay comfortably focused for long periods of time on the breath — and right there you run into two operative assumptions: What does it mean to breathe? What does it mean to be focused?</p> <p>It's common to think of the breath as the air passing in and out through the nose, and this can be a useful perception to start with. Use whatever blatant sensations you associate with that perception as a means of establishing mindfulness, developing alertness, and getting the mind to grow still. But as your attention gets more refined, you may find that level of breath becoming too faint to detect. So try thinking of the breath instead as the energy flow in the body, as a full body process.</p> <p>Then make that experience as comfortable as possible. If you feel any blockage or obstruction in the breathing, see what you can do to dissolve those feelings. Are you doing anything to create them? If you can catch yourself creating them, then it's easy to let them dissolve. And what would make you create them aside from your preconceived notions of how the mechanics of breathing have to work? So question those notions: Where does the breath come into the body? Does it come in only through the nose and mouth? Does the body have to pull the breath in? If so, which sensations do the pulling? Which sensations get pulled? Where does the pulling begin? And where is the breath pulled from? Which parts have the breath, and which ones don't? When you feel a sensation of blockage, which side of the sensation are you on?</p> <p>These questions may sound strange, but many times your pre-verbal assumptions about the body are strange as well. Only when you confront them head-on with strange questions can you bring them to light. And only when you see them clearly can you replace them with alternative concepts.</p> <p>So once you catch yourself breathing uncomfortably in line with a particular assumption, turn it around to see what sensations the new assumption highlights. Try staying with those sensations as long as you can, to test them. If, compared to your earlier sensations associated with the breath, they're easier to stay with, if they provide a more solid and spacious grounding for concentration, the assumption that drew them to your attention is a useful new tool in your meditation. If the new sensations aren't helpful in that way, you can throw the new tool aside.</p> <p>For example, if you have a sense of being on one side of a blockage, try thinking of being on the other side. Try being on both. Think of the breath as coming into the body, not through the nose or mouth, but through the middle of the chest, the back of the neck, every pore of your skin, any spot that helps reduce the felt need to push and pull.</p> <p>Or start questioning the need to push and pull at all. Do you feel that your immediate experience of the body is of the solid parts, and that they have to manage the mechanics of breathing, which is secondary? What happens if you conceive your immediate experience of the body in a different way, as a field of primary breath energy, with the solidity simply a label attached to certain aspects of the breath? Whatever you experience as a primary body sensation, think of it as already breath, without your having to do anything more to it. How does that affect the level of stress and strain in the breathing?</p> <p>And what about the act of staying focused? How do you conceive that? Is it behind the breath? Surrounded by breath? To what extent does your mental picture of focusing help or hinder the ease and solidity of your concentration? For instance, you may find that you think of the mind as being in one part of the body and not in others. What do you do when you focus attention on another part? Does the mind leave its home base — say, in the head — to go there, or does the other part have to be brought into the head? What kind of tension does this create? What happens if you think of awareness already being in that other part? What happens when you turn things around entirely: instead of the mind's being in the body, see what stress is eliminated when you think of the body as surrounded by a pre-existing field of awareness.</p> <p>When you ask questions like this and gain favorable results, the mind can settle down into deeper and deeper levels of solidity. You eliminate unnecessary tension and stress in your focus, finding ways of feeling more and more at home, at ease, in the experience of the present.</p> <p>Once the mind is settled down, give it time to stay there. Don't be in too great a hurry to move on. Here the questions are, "Which parts of the process were necessary to focus in? Which can now be let go? Which do you have to hold onto in order to maintain this focus?" Tuning into the right level of awareness is one process; staying there is another. When you learn how to maintain your sense of stillness, try to keep it going in all situations. What do you discover gets in the way? Is it your own resistance to disturbances? Can you make your stillness so porous that disturbances can go through without running into anything, without knocking your center off balance?</p> <p>As you get more and more absorbed in exploring these issues, concentration becomes less a battle against disturbance and more an opportunity for inner exploration. And without even thinking about them, you're developing the four bases of success: the desire to understand things, the persistence that keeps after your exploration, the close attention you're paying to cause and effect, and the ingenuity you're putting into framing the questions you ask. All these qualities contribute to concentration, help it get settled, get solid, get clear.</p> <p>At the same time, they foster discernment. The Buddha once said that the test for a person's discernment is how he or she frames a question and tries to answer it. Thus to foster discernment, you can't simply stick to pre-set directions in your meditation. You have to give yourself practice in framing questions and testing the karma of those questions by looking for their results.</p> <p>Ultimately, when you reach a perception of the breath that allows the sensations of in-and-out breathing to grow still, you can start questioning more subtle perceptions of the body. It's like tuning into a radio station. If your receiver isn't precisely tuned to the frequency of the signal, the static interferes with the subtleties of whatever is being transmitted. But when you're precisely tuned, every nuance comes through. The same with your sensation of the body: when the movements of the breath grow still, the more subtle nuances of how perception interacts with physical sensation come to the fore. The body seems like a mist of atomic sensations, and you can begin to see how your perceptions interact with that mist. To what extent is the shape of the body inherent in the mist? To what extent is it intentional — something added? What happens when you drop the intention to create that shape? Can you focus on the space between the droplets in the mist? What happens then? Can you stay there? What happens when you drop the perception of space and focus on the knowing? Can you stay there? What happens when you drop the oneness of the knowing? Can you stay there? What happens when you try to stop labeling anything at all?</p> <p>As you settle into these more formless states, it's important that you not lose sight of your purpose in tuning into them. You're here to understand suffering, not to over-interpret what you experience. Say, for instance, that you settle into an enveloping sense of space or consciousness. From there, it's easy to assume that you've reached the primordial awareness, the ground of being, from which all things emerge, to which they all return, and which is essentially untouched by the whole process of emerging and returning. You might take descriptions of the Unconditioned and apply them to what you're experiencing. If you're abiding in a state of neither perception nor non-perception, it's easy to see it as a non-abiding, devoid of distinctions between perceiver and perceived, for mental activity is so attenuated as to be virtually imperceptible. Struck with the apparent effortlessness of the state, you may feel that you've gone beyond passion, aversion, and delusion simply by regarding them as unreal. If you latch onto an assumption like this, you can easily think that you've reached the end of the path before your work is really done.</p> <p>Your only protection here is to regard these assumptions as forms of perception, and to dismantle them as well. And here is where the four noble truths prove their worth, as tools for dismantling any assumption by detecting the stress that accompanies it. Ask if there's still some subtle stress in the concentration that has become your dwelling place. What goes along with that stress? What vagrant movements in the mind are creating it? What persistent movements in the mind are creating it? You have to watch for both.</p> <p>In this way you come face to face with the perceptions that keep even the most subtle states of concentration going. And you see that even <i>they</i> are stressful. If you replace them with other perceptions, though, you'll simply exchange one type of stress for another. It's as if your ascending levels of concentration have brought you to the top of a flag pole. You look down and see aging, illness, and death coming up the pole, in pursuit. You've exhausted all the options that perception can offer, so what are you going to do? You can't just stay where you are. Your only option is to release your grip. And if you're letting go fully, you let go of gravity, too</p> <p>"De-perception", by Thanissaro Bhikkhu for <a href="http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/thanissaro/deperception.html " target="_blank">Access to Insight</a>, 5 June 2010, </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-16523209314545885162013-07-04T02:54:00.001-07:002013-07-04T02:54:13.309-07:00<p>You are not called to be a canary in a cage. <br />You are called to be an eagle, <br />and to fly sun to sun, over continents.<strong><b><strong><b>Henry Ward Beecher, 1813-1887</b></strong> <br /></b></strong>American Clergyman and Author</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-32194217768184683132013-04-25T03:40:00.001-07:002013-04-25T03:40:54.289-07:00Being you !<p>This is the most challenging thing that we can face in this ever changing world , with attention span of few seconds , and tons of information that we face daily , I thinks its quite natural for us to forget who we really are . </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Every body want others to understand them and  expect others to behave or act in manner that is in line with our way of thinking and if they do some thing other than expected then we probably wont like them . </p> <p>We all follow a set of rules ,written or unwritten , knowingly or unknowingly , most of us don't know when they entered our though process and which ones are more dominant than others , its very hard to say . </p> <p>but they play a very important role in our daily lives , the real problem comes when we start breaking them one by one , and that vey first chance of breaking them we do it , probably for a person . </p> <p>Example : I don't like gossiping , that is my rule and I really don't know why ! Now I meet a friend after a long gap say 10 years , then we start talking about those good old days .etc and slowly he starts gossiping , now the most common thing most of us do is break our rule , excuse being just this one day that too I met him after 10 years , so its ok to break . </p> <p>No that is completely wrong. the maximum limit is to bend that too for extraordinary reasons not to break under any circumstances . this will enforce your belief system and make you stand for all the things which you believe are right no matter what . </p> <p>This world is trying to change you all the time , its not a bad thing , but you have a stand and you know its right , Don't change it for any one or any thing . </p> <p>Realise that Just being you (the good and best you) is the best thing we all can do . </p> <p>Hope you like this post , would like to know your thoughts . </p> <p>Namaste : kalyan Inampudi . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-2001060783027936092013-04-16T06:32:00.001-07:002013-04-16T06:32:22.691-07:00What makes me weak<p>I don't like things ,thoughts and people that make me weak or feel weak , but that is huge contradiction to my most basic principle that there is nothing out side of your mind . </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Ideas,things,actions,circumstances and many other things come in to life but what makes you weak or strong is completely in your hands , easier said than done ! </p> <p>every thought is like a seed , and being the Gardner of my mind i should decide which ones are to be sown and which ones are to be discarded . so every thought no matter how small, in reality matters . </p> <p>garden looks good only when it is properly taken care of , actually what we do in this busy world is being so busy we will not take proper care in choosing the seeds , out of laziness or ignorance or any other reason we leave the screening process which is the most vital part and allow all kinds of seeds to be sowed in the garden . </p> <p>Having faith in our abilities assuming that we will take care of all the plants once they start growing and weed out all those which we don't like or need .  If the earlier one was a mistake this one is a blunder ! </p> <p>why you might ask ? </p> <p>because we are not at all having a organised garden , we are having all kinds of plants and tress in a very messy order apart from that we are having too many weeds and lastly there are many plants out there of whose purpose and usefulness we don't even know . </p> <p>when summed up uses so much of space which could have been used for more useful tress . An oak is an oak no matter where it is planted but it’s usefulness will be multiplied when its planted in proper place and way . </p> <p>so friends what I am trying to sum it up here is this : </p> <p>Your thoughts are the most important things in your life they are your makers and breakers , good thoughts are more precious than gems and jewels , nurture them ,take care of them , don't say yes to negative and bad thoughts they not only bring you down but also occupies space of good thoughts .</p> <p>every though is important just remember this and  make sure which ones goes in and which one stays out , it is easier when you think less (in terms of quality leave the idiotic and trivial ones like sugar is less in the coffee..etc) . </p> <p>Hope this post is useful to you .</p> <p>Namaste : kalyan Inampudi .  </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-74945146552201920052013-04-11T22:17:00.001-07:002013-04-11T22:17:04.052-07:00The philosophy of anger<p>In his documentary, Botton illustrates the driving mechanism behind anger and its management by citing philosopher Seneca’s beliefs.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>“Modern life is full of frustrations and most of us do not seem to be able to respond philosophically to it. We are prone to losing our tempers. Anger seems as much a part of life today as bad driving and traffic jams,” says Botton in the third documentary on “Philosophy: A Guide to Happiness”.</p> <p>“We find one ancient philosopher who was particularly concerned with anger and wanted to calm people down. He was born in Coduba province of Spain in the year A.D. 180. His name was Seneca. The author of more than 20 books on all aspects of life, Seneca came to Rome and became influential here. He was the most popular and famous philosopher of his day. But that does not mean his life was free from frustration. He was naturally a melancholic man... and he lived in very dangerous times of despotic, violent and unpredictable rulers.”</p> <p>In 49 A.D. he had to take on, against his will, the most fateful job in the Imperial administration: tutor a 12-year-old boy, the future emperor Nero. “It soon became apparent that Nero was a murderous psychopath. Knowing he was in danger, Seneca attempted to withdraw from court. He offered his resignation twice. The emperor Nero refused. Nothing in Seneca’s experience encouraged him to believe Nero, when he embraced him tightly and he said he would not harm him, that he would actually not,” says Botton</p> <p>Botton takes you on a virtual tour of the underground chambers where Nero, who wielded absolute power, perpetrated utmost cruelty on his countrymen. Botton enumerates them, painfully. That is why, he says, Seneca felt the urgency to tame tempers. “It was because the consequences of anger were so great that Seneca was desperate to assuage them,” says Botton. “Seneca dedicated a whole book to the subject titled ‘On Anger’. The most hideous and frenzied of all emotions, he called it, but crucially he refused to see it as an irrational outburst, something over which we had no control. Anger arose because of some rationally held ideas about the world, and the problem with these ideas is that they are far too optimistic. Seneca said people get angry because they are too hopeful. Whenever we get angry there is an element of surprise, self-pity and injustice. Seneca’s first advice is to be more pessimistic so that we adjust our view of the world so that we are less surprised when reversals occur. Also if we accept that we are less likely to be able to do something about them, we will lose it less often.”</p> <p>Seneca said that we want the world in our way; that cannot be. Like a dog on a leash, we have some freedom, not all. And like a dog on a leash it is better to know the length of your leash. So Seneca says our freedom comes from knowing what we can do is to acquire an attitudinal change.</p> <p>“Seneca believed prosperity fostered bad tempers. The wealthier you are the more expectations you have,” says Botton, who goes on to talk of how surprises can also throw your temper off balance. “So he recommends a calm daily meditation on how things can go wrong.”</p> <p>That makes you more prepared and also differentiate between the things you can change and that which you cannot. Seneca believes we often overestimate our capacity to change things. “In order to remind us constantly of just how many things lie outside of our control he invoked Goddess Fortune. She holds the cornucopia, which was a symbol that she would bestow the best in life. In the other hand she had a darker object, the rudder, a reminder of her power to shift our destiny for the worse. She is a symbol of everything we must accept... the good and bad.”</p> <p>Botton ends with shots of Pompeii where destiny ran her course of hot lava without man’s permission and the story of how Seneca was ordered to kill himself by Emperor Nero. Seneca did so with fortitude, giving life to his beliefs in his death.</p> <iframe height="413" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/yuDAfU3uj6o" frameborder="0" width="550" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe> <p>By SUDHAMAHI REGUNATHAN for TheHindu . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-10757095718940706342013-04-08T22:42:00.001-07:002013-04-08T22:42:56.212-07:00Write Your Own Destiny.<p>With your hands write your fate and if you don’t like it, erase it and write it again. This is a powerful secret of life. We have such potential, such power that we can write or rewrite our destiny! All you need to know is what you want to do with your life. Write, and that will become possible, you have that power. Your fate is in your hands.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Your soul is the highest truth in you. And that soul has a power to do whatever you want.  You can tell your soul, “This is my fate, this is what I want to do with my life”. But when people are not aware, conscious, then negative forces make your fate. Why allow that?</p> <p>At another level by saying that your fate is in your hands, it is literal. Use your hands. There is no other work for these hands… they can design your fate, with your consciousness, with your human nature. What a powerful machine we have…and how little we use it!</p> <p>When we realise that we are filled with immense potential, we will get the energy to move mountains. Then we don’t need any rest.  Rest means you feel tired and you want to relax. Why do you feel tired?</p> <p>Life is always giving you more energy: the more you use your forces, the more you grow… The Mother used to say that it is dangerous to take rest. Life is so short and if we spend maximum time taking rest, what are we making of it? Why blame fate then? </p> <p>It is a very unconscious, low attitude of life – taking rest. It grows inertia. When we misuse our consciousness by pursuing self-centered ideas, ambitions or missions, we become tired fast. Whenever you are tired, it means you are busy somewhere in a very selfish business, in selfish motives, selfish activities.</p> <p>Ego eats lots of energy: to maintain your ego, a lot of energy is needed. Without ego you start feeling light – ego is like a big burden which you are carrying; when you are walking carrying a heavy burden, automatically you will get tired very fast. And with no ego you feel light; you don’t feel tired with that. <br /> <br />Do not confuse rest with sleep. Sleep is a force, it is a living, live force. There are two forces which give us energy: one is the force of sleep, and the other is food which we eat. When sleep is good, then you wake up with more energy, full of life. Use both with discrimination and respect.</p> <p>Life is so beautiful, when you are moving in the right direction, with the spirit of adventure and joy. Then you want to live more, you want to work more, you don’t want take rest! Then you attract Divine forces and the Divine forces direct you. That is how you can make your life, design your fate, make your destiny. You feel purposeful. It is all in your hands…</p> <p>Via <a href="http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-articles/lifestyle/go-on-write-your-own-destiny/2464" target="_blank">Speaking tree</a> By Swami Brahmdev .</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-70363771752202301252013-04-02T19:10:00.001-07:002013-04-02T19:10:40.365-07:0010 Quotes That Changed My Life<p>Hope you’re superb today. Hope you’re playing full out + expressing your genius + making the world better.</p> <p>I was in a reflective mood this morning and thought about 10 of the quotes that profoundly influenced the way I think, create and live.</p> <p>[As you know, all it takes is a single idea in small paragraph to revolutionize the way you play out the rest of your life].</p> <p>So—to inspire you (and move you to action on your boldest opportunities), I wanted to share them -Robin Sharma .</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” <br />—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe</p> <p>“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” <br />—Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Or, Life in the Woods</p> <p>“Why do they always teach us that it’s easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It’s the hardest thing in the world–to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want.” <br />—Ayn Rand</p> <p>“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” <br />—Oscar Wilde</p> <p>“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.” <br />—Jack Kerouac, On the Road</p> <p>“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” <br />—Theodore Roosevelt</p> <p>“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” <br />—Marianne Williamson</p> <p>“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one’s self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.” <br />—Bessie Anderson Stanley (frequently misattributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson)</p> <p>“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” <br />—Margaret Mead</p> <p>“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” <br />—Mahatma Gandhi</p> <p>Post by Robin Sharma from <a href="http://www.robinsharma.com/blog/03/10-quotes-that-changed-my-life/" target="_blank">robinsharma.com</a></p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-72844250473361251192013-03-31T19:23:00.001-07:002013-03-31T19:25:31.135-07:00Love is only a wordLife is too short for us to keep important words, for example, ‘I love you’, locked in our hearts. kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-14638017864571369072013-03-30T06:57:00.001-07:002013-03-30T06:57:19.968-07:00"As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen<p>"The aphorism, "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he," not only embraces the whole of a man's being, but is so comprehensive as to reach out to every condition and circumstance of his life. A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts." </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>"Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits" </p> <p>"cause and effect is as absolute and undeviating in the hidden realm of thought as in the world of visible and material things" </p> <p>"<b>A noble and Godlike character is not a thing of favour or chance, but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking, the effect of long-cherished association with Godlike thoughts.</b> An ignoble and bestial character, by the same process, is the result of the continued harbouring of grovelling thoughts." </p> <p>"<b>Man is made or unmade by himself</b>; in the armoury of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself; he also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace." </p> <p>"<b>man is the master of thought, the moulder of character, and the maker and shaper of condition, environment, and destiny</b>"</p> <p>This is a wonderful book , small but powerful you can download it free from <a href="http://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/4507" target="_blank">Project Gutenberg</a>  a free online collection of eBooks .</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-31536093234314550752013-01-13T22:56:00.001-08:002013-01-13T22:56:42.249-08:00To Realize<p>This is beautiful. Read quietly then send it back on its journey !</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>To realize The value of a sister/brother Ask someone Who doesn't have one. </p> <p>To realize The value of ten years: Ask a newly Divorced couple. </p> <p>To realize The value of four years: Ask a graduate. </p> <p>To realize The value of one year: Ask a student who Has failed a final exam. </p> <p>To realize The value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn. </p> <p>To realize The value of one month: Ask a mother Who has given birth to A premature baby. </p> <p>To realize The value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper. </p> <p>To realize The value of one hour:</p> <p>Ask the couple who turned backs and slept without a word. </p> <p>To realize The value of one minute: Ask a person Who has missed the train, bus or plane.. </p> <p>To realize The value of one-second: Ask a person Who has survived an accident. </p> <p>Time waits for no one treasure every moment you have. You will treasure it even more when You can share it with someone special. </p> <p>To realize the value of a friend :LOOSE ONE n see .</p> <p>The origin of this letter is unknown,But it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on. </p> <p>Remember .Hold on tight to the ones you love !  Send it to friends & family upon whom you wish blessings</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-29495189953048525532013-01-09T00:59:00.001-08:002013-01-09T00:59:50.247-08:00The Good Jar !<p>Wonderful idea to share!</p> <a name='more'></a> <p> <img style="margin: 6px 0px 2px; display: inline; float: right" title="Good Jar" alt="Good Jar" align="right" src="http://lh6.ggpht.com/-MqIrDzdRsBQ/UO0xgt0Ok0I/AAAAAAAAZUo/_qH5PQRd0MQ/Good%252520Jar%25255B9%25255D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="186" height="240" />This January, why not start the year with an empty jar and fill it with notes about good things that happen. Then on New Year's Eve, empty it and see what awesome stuff happened that year. Good way to keep things in perspective!</p> <p>Thanks to Roop Rekha .</p> <p>I loved this Idea very much , you can also try a journal .</p> <p>Do you have any ideas or suggestions ? please use our comment section or mail me . </p> <p>Thanks . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-76582596480610397012013-01-08T00:18:00.001-08:002013-01-08T00:18:26.402-08:00Two kinds of mistakes<p>There is the mistake of overdoing the defense of the status quo, the error of investing too much time and energy in keeping things as they are. <br clear="all" /></p> <a name='more'></a> <p>And then there is the mistake made while inventing the future, the error of small experiments gone bad.</p> <p>We are almost never hurt by the second kind of mistake and yet we persist in making the first kind, again and again.</p> <p>by <a href="http://profile.typepad.com/sethgodin">Seth Godin</a> .</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-91153497824751483542012-12-17T22:23:00.001-08:002012-12-17T22:23:19.649-08:00Doing the donkeywork<p>On the way to market one day to sell their donkey, the father at first let his young son sit on the animal while he walked alongside and, sure enough, within minutes they had attracted the attention of a bunch of aged men.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p> "Kids have no respect for their elders any longer," said one of them. "Imagine letting the old father walk while he rides comfortably."</p> <p>So the father told the kid to get down while he sat on the animal. But now they came across a group of young women, one of whom snickered, "Look at that guy happily riding his ass while making the young son trudge along beside him."</p> <p>This made the father pull the kid up next to him and then both rode the donkey till they heard someone in another little crowd of people say, "My God they're going to kill that poor animal riding double. Don't they care about God's dumb creatures?"</p> <p>Now, father and son both got off and began walking with the beast till they heard laughter from a gathering of citizens who were all saying, "Boy talk about being dumb! They own a donkey and still walk." The duo finally ended up carrying the donkey tied and slung across on a pole, but, of course, that led other people to declare they'd gone completely mad.</p> <p>"The moral of the story," said the father to his son when they returned home later that evening, "is that by trying to please everybody, one can please nobody." The son thought about this for a while before replying. "Perhaps Dad," he said, "but you can look at it another way too. Because the truth is that without knowing it some people like us also work awfully hard to make sure we please nobody."</p> <p>Via Mukul Sharma for ET.</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-61740070552496294562012-12-13T21:50:00.001-08:002012-12-13T21:50:08.153-08:00Why The Deep-seated Hatred?<p>A sutra from Ishavasya Upanishad says: “He who sees the entire world of animate and inanimate objectsin himself and also sees himself in all animate and inanimate objects, because of this, does not hate anyone.” </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Dislike or hatred of another is the basis of deep-seated complications. The word hatred means the desire to destroy the other. Love means being willing to sacrifice oneself for another, if necessary. In the way we all live there is an abundance of hatred and no music of love.</p> <p>The feeling which we call love is, in fact, a form of hatred. In making love we make another our means for happiness; and hatred begins. In making love we live for our own self; to serve our own selfish end. We do something for another only when we have some hope of getting something from him - we desire the fruit; otherwise we do nothing. That is why our love may turn into hatred at any moment. If a small obstruction crops up that gets in the way of the fulfillment of our desire, our love will be changed into hatred. Love which can be turned into hatred and contempt is only concealed hatred. There is only hatred within, and the outer covering is just a semblance of love.</p> <p>The Ishavasya presents here a very important sutra which makes love possible; otherwise not. Without understanding and acting upon this sutra, there is no possibility for the flower of love to open. This sutra says that hatred will come to an end only when a person begins to see himself in all animate and inanimate objects, and begins to see all animate and inanimate objects - the whole existence - in himself. Remember, the Ishavasya does not say that love will be born then but says, "Then hatred will come to an end."</p> <p>If there is no hatred, love blooms of its own accord - spontaneously, naturally. It is like removing a stone blocking a small stream: once removed, the stream flows of its own accord. Similarly, the stone of hatred weighs on us and we are unable to see our faces reflected in the mirrors of all animate and inanimate objects; nor can we become mirrors reflecting all those objects in ourselves.</p> <p>The person for whom the whole world becomes a mirror, himself becomes a mirror for the whole world. They happen simultaneously. The Upanishad says that when this happens, hatred disappears but it doesn’t say that love is born then, because love is eternal, it is our nature. Neither is it born, nor does it die.</p> <p>Love is the nature of life, so it has neither birth nor death. Clouds of hatred are born and die. Love is covered when those clouds are born; it manifests itself when they disappear, when they are no more. But love is eternal, so the Upanishad does not talk of the birth of love, it says this much only: hatred dies and disappears.</p> <p>But how? The sutra is not as easy as it appears. Mostly, there is great depth and intricacy hidden within easy matters. This sutra seems to be straightforward and easy. The whole statement is completed in two lines only. It says, the person who sees himself in all objects - animate and inanimate - and begins to see all objects in himself, will have his hatred destroyed. But to make all his mirror, or to be a mirror for all, is the greatest alchemy and art. There is no greater art. The Heartbeat of the Absolute.</p> <p>courtesy: Osho International Foundation</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-81672501056285208822012-11-27T05:11:00.001-08:002012-11-27T05:11:15.141-08:00The Time .<p>1. Use time as a tool, not as a couch.</p> <p>2. Time is what we want most, but sadly what we use worst.</p> <p>3. Work hard 28 hours a day!</p> <p>4. Time is money.</p> <p>5. The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of 60 minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.</p> <p>6. I must govern the clock, not be governed by it.</p> <p>7. Time moves in one direction.. but our memories in another...</p> <p>8. Time does not change us. It just unfolds us.</p> <p>9. Time makes heroes but dissolves</p> <p>celebrities.</p> <p>10. Time is a dressmaker specializing in alterations!!</p> <p>and finally :</p> <p>You must have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by; but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.....</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-61341129146694786792012-10-27T05:48:00.001-07:002012-10-27T05:49:06.207-07:00That You shall be !<p>This is a amazing story about a man and his greed to more and more all the time , wonderfully presented by Paulo Coelho which was sent to him by one of his readers Shirlei Massapust . </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Many years ago there lived in Japan a young man called Humi, who made his living breaking stones. Although strong and healthy, he was not happy with his lot and complained day and night. </p> <p>     On Christmas day he prayed fervently and his guardian angel finally appeared before him.</p> <p>     - You are healthy and you have a full life ahead of you, - said the angel. - All the young people start by doing something. Why are you always complaining?</p> <p>     - God has been unfair to me and hasn't given me the chance to grow, - answered Humi. </p> <p>     Concerned, the angel sought out the Lord to ask for help so that his protégé would not end up losing his soul. </p> <p>     - As you will, said the Lord. - Since it is Christmas, all that Humi wants will be granted. </p> <p>     On the following day Humi was breaking stones when he saw a carriage pass by bearing a noble covered in jewels. Wiping his sweaty, dirty brow with his hands, Humi said bitterly:</p> <p>     - Why can't I be a noble too? That's my destiny!</p> <p>     - That you shall be! - murmured his angel with immense joy.</p> <p>     And Humi was transformed into the owner of a sumptuous palace and many estates and always surrounded by servants and horses. Every day he would parade with his impressive retinue and he liked to see his old companions lining the streets and looking at him with respect.</p> <p>     On one such afternoon, the heat was unbearable and even under his golden sun-shade Humi was sweating just like he did in the days when he broke stones. Then he realized that he was not all that important, for above him there were princes, emperors, and even above all them was the sun, who obeyed no-one, for it was the true king. </p> <p>     - Ah, my angel! Why can't I be the sun? That is to be my destiny! - complained Humi.</p> <p>     - That you shall be! - exclaimed the angel, hiding his sadness at such pretension.</p> <p>     And Humi became the sun, for that was his wish.</p> <p>     While he shone in the sky, admired for his gigantic power of ripening the crops or else burning them as he felt the whim, a black spot began to approach him. The dark shadow grew bigger and bigger and Humi noticed that it was a cloud spreading all around him and making it impossible for him to see the Earth. </p> <p>     - Angel! - shouted Humi - The cloud is stronger than the sun! My fate is to be a cloud!</p> <p>     - That you shall be! - answered the angel.</p> <p>     Humi was transformed into a cloud and thought that his dream had come true.</p> <p>     - I am powerful! - he shouted out, darkening the sun.</p> <p>     - I am invincible! - he thundered, chasing the waves.</p> <p>     But along the desert coast of the ocean rose up an immense rock of granite as old as the world. Humi thought that the rock was defying him and worked up a storm that the world had never before cast eyes on. The enormous, angry waves beat away at the rock trying to tear it up out of the soil and toss it far into the depths of the sea.</p> <p>     But the rock stood firm and impassive in its place. </p> <p>     - Angel! - sobbed Humi - the rock is stronger than the cloud! My lot is to be a rock!</p> <p>     And Humi was transformed into a rock.</p> <p>     - Who can beat me now? - he asked himself. - I am the most powerful in the world! </p> <p>     And so many years passed by until one morning Humi felt a sharp nudge in his stone entrails, followed by a deep pain as if a part of his granite body had been dilacerated. Then he heard dull, insistent blows and once again the gigantic pain. </p> <p>     Fear-crazed, he began to roar out:</p> <p>     - Angel, somebody's trying to kill me! He's more powerful than I am, I want to be like him!</p> <p>     - That you shall be! - exclaimed the angel in tears.</p> <blockquote> <p>     And that is how Humi went back to breaking stones.</p></blockquote> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-73827948095055949472012-10-18T22:33:00.001-07:002012-10-18T22:35:18.925-07:00The Feminine mystique By Osho<p>Lao Tzu feels that the nature of existence is more like a woman than like a man, because man comes out of woman, woman comes out of woman. Man could even be discarded but woman cannot be discarded. Woman seems to be a basic element.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p> Man grows out of it. Woman seems to be more elemental, more natural; man has something unnatural about him. If you ask biologists they say that man has a deep imbalance in his biology; woman is symmetrical, balanced. That's why she looks more beautiful and round. Man has corners, woman has no corners.</p> <p>Lao Tzu has this analogy that the nature of existence is more feminine, it is more balanced. Look at the trees, at the birds singing, rivers flowing; look all around and watch -- you will find more of feminity everywhere. Everything seems to be perfect at this moment. The trees are not worried about the future, nor are the birds; rivers are moving so lazily, so silently -- as if they are not moving at all. There’s no hurry.</p> <p>Man exists with time, with a worry. Deep down the worry seems to be sexual: the worry about achieving a sexual orgasm. Whenever a man is making love to a woman he is worried whether he will be able to make it or not, worried whether he will be able to satisfy the woman or not, worried whether he will be able to prove that he is a man or not. </p> <p>The worry: an inner trembling, in a hurry somehow to prove, and that's why he misses. Orgasm is a different phenomenon: it happens only when you are not worried, it when you are not an achiever, it happens only when you are not reaching for something, it happens in a deep relaxation, when you are not in control -- but nature takes control.</p> <p> Then your whole body throbs with an unknown bliss. Then every cell of your body celebrates in a total ecstasy; then it is divine.</p> <p>But man is worried, and that sexual worry is the root cause of all worries. Then everywhere he is trying to prove himself. There is no need to prove yourself. You are. You are perfect. No woman is worried about proving; she takes it for granted that she is perfect. She lives in a relaxed way.</p> <p>Lao Tzu says the nature of existence is more feminine. He is not trying to prove that existence is female. He is simply giving an analogy.</p> <p>A man can also be feminine. A Buddha is feminine, a Lao Tzu is feminine, and a Jesus is feminine. Then he lives, he lives in the moment, unhurried; he enjoys the moment unhurried.</p> <p>A man can live a feminine existence -- then he becomes a mystic. That is the only way; so all mystics become in a certain way feminine. And they are the real religious men, not the founders of religion.</p> <p>And if you can find the key to open the door of the mystic female you have opened the door of existence. Everybody has to enter that door non-tense, balanced, satisfied and content -- that's the secret of feminine being.</p> <p>  Everybody has to come back to the mother; that is the feminine mystique. You are born out of the mother's womb, and you have to find the womb again in existence. If you can find the same warmth, the same life, the same love, the same care in existence -- then existence becomes your home, your mother.</p> <p> Tao: The Three Treasures </p> <p>courtesy: Osho International Foundation, <a href="http://www.osho.com">www.osho.com</a></p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-13190514808019651932012-10-12T21:41:00.001-07:002012-10-12T21:41:58.958-07:00It’s good to stumble<p>The fear of mistakes often proves a big hurdle to creativity. Edward de Bono deconstructs the road to creative inspiration. Sudhamahi Regunathan</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Edward de Bono is well known for the six thinking hats that one should don. This talk on creativity is, in short, snippets, with each snippet bound to the other with a subheading that gives the subject for the next snippet. The first subheading reads, “The Human Brain”, and de Bono begins by saying, “If we look at the human brain as a computer, we then have to ask, what the software we use with that computer is. In general, the software for Western civilization was originally designed 2,400 years ago by the Greek Gang of Three: Socrates, Plato and Aristotle. We have done virtually nothing about thinking since then.”</p> <p>Even as you squirm thinking of not just the antiquity of the wisdom we are holding on to but also the fact that non-European cultures have given up their inheritance to fall into this stupor too, de Bono continues, “Creative thinking is a skill. It is not a matter of individual talent. It is not sitting by the river and hearing Baroque music and hoping for inspiration. That is very weak stuff.”</p> <p>So much for the Muse we wooed with style. The road to creative inspiration has to be methodical, says de Bono and gives the example of China. “Two thousand years ago China was way ahead of Western science and technology. They had rockets and gunpowder and such things. What happened? The scholars in China started to believe that you could move from certainty to certainty and as a result never developed the possibility system; never developed hypotheses, speculation, imagination. Progress came to a dead end.”</p> <p>The second point to note is that the new idea, the creative idea, must have value. Edward de Bono says being creative is not just to be different. This is a mistaken understanding of creativity. Says de Bono, “…and that is what gets creativity a bad name. So if you look at a door and say doors are generally rectangular, let us make a triangular door…unless you can show value for that, it is not creativity. It is just being different for the sake of being different.”</p> <p>How does one be creative? “Provocation is one of the tools to lateral thinking and is completely opposite to logical thinking,” says Edward de Bono. “According to logical thinking you can say only that which makes sense, fits in with our experiences and with what we have said before. With a provocation there may not be a reason for saying something until after you have said it… it puts us on a different patterning system and allows us to open new ideas. Thinking outside the box means to think of unusual things, to be creative. The notion is that we are all within a box which is formed by the constraints, by our expectations, by the concepts we use, by the perceptions we use, and we play around in that box. So it means developing an idea which would not have been expected in our usual thinking and usual behaviour.”</p> <p>Creative thinking, thinking out of the box, lateral thinking are all the same, but de Bono prefers, ‘lateral thinking’ because that is very specifically defined in system terms which means, “… moving across from the main pattern to a side pattern which once you are there in hindsight, you can link with your starting point.”</p> <p><iframe height="420" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/UjSjZOjNIJg" frameborder="0" width="560" allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen"></iframe></p> <p>But does creativity not come with great angst about the outcome? Agrees de Bono, </p> <blockquote> <p>“One of the reasons why people are reluctant to be creative, in general, is that if you try out an idea and it does not work, that is regarded as a mistake. A big deficiency in the English language is that we don’t have a word which says: fully justified venture which for reasons beyond your control did not succeed. So anything that does not succeed is called a mistake and people don’t like mistakes…”</p></blockquote> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-66947918672803067692012-10-03T06:22:00.005-07:002012-10-03T10:40:47.306-07:00GOD'S OWN PLANS<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Once there was this young girl who had a family of academicians &her family wanted her to read,write &;learn.So her father arranged a teacher to teach her at home but as she grew up she realized she never liked reading &writing ,she loved to sing ,sing along with flowing breeze,along with flying birds <br />
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when she told this to her parents they never approved of it ;in turn told her that good girls don't move out singing,furious over it they married her to a wealthy merchant.Time flew away ;her desire to sing remained buried in her heart .<br />
She became a mother to a baby girl ;on that day she decided she would make her daughter a singer who would be appreciated by all ,gradually the baby turned into a lovely girl ;her mother arranged a tutor to teach her singing ,her mother started crafting dreams for her daughter &;the girl started with her classes.<br />
The girl realized gradually that she never struck the chord with songs,rather it was the music in which she loved to dance,she enjoyed dancing to the tunes,with the butterflies,among the flowers &one day she told this to her mother in presence of her teacher mother got angry &shouted"do you know i was never allowed to learn music,i tried to complete my unfulfilled dreams through you&;now you are saying you want to dance.<br />
Good girls never dance"Then her parents got her married to a merchant the girl was sad,disappointed but then she accepted her destiny &said to herself she would never restrict her daughter from dancing would arrange for dance classes so that she could dance to the tune of her life .<br />
She became mother &when her girl grew up she called her daughter&amp;said that<span style="font-size: medium;"><img align="right" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhsN_UAxUa5IZa0FAS3Q3lzIRbewffQDVwN7ASfNRW1zG8FcPDisr0QkDpeGbLch8_UZIC8c6I1gOpkWIUS6UV2hBHzJjx2-ybpCHsQ1NSYxwxdd1KiPqM7HBS0MeASp6Pi3lqNrf4ssg/s320/misc39.jpg" style="cursor: move; display: inline; float: right; margin: 6px 0px 2px;" width="221" /></span> she has arranged dance classes for her &wished to see her as a great dancer one day.the girl started learning to dance ;one fine day the mother all enthusiastic ,excited went to her class to inquire about her girl's progress .<br />
The teacher told her she never dances properly&is the least interested child .She came home ,asked her &;the girl said"I don't like dancing mummy, i love reading books,looking at colorful pictures,reading stories.<br />
Mother ,the library interests me more than dance classes"mother sat down with forehead in her hands &then she realized<br />
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<i>YOU CAN NEVER PLAN THE FUTURE OF YOUR KIDS,GOD HAS THEIR OWN PLANS FOR THEM .......LET THEM FOLLOW THEIR DREAMS SO THAT THEY CAN WRITE THEIR OWN STORIES,DANCE TO THEIR TUNES &SING THEIR LIFE'S SONG</i></blockquote>
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This post is written by Sehar who blogs at <a href="http://sehar-emotions.blogspot.in/">what a life to be</a> .She is a wonderful blogger and her story has been selected by Paulo Coelho himself . Read this wonderful post <a href="http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2010/10/27/readers-story-two-choices-in-life/" target="_blank">Reader’s story: two choices in life</a> by her on Paulo’s blog .</div>
Seharhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06704630604208644921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-23934241039114692692012-09-27T00:12:00.001-07:002012-09-27T00:12:25.948-07:0021 Tips to Become the Most Productive Person You Know<p><strong></strong></p> <a name='more'></a> <p><strong>Here are 21 tips to get you to your best productivity:</strong></p> <p>#1. Check email in the afternoon so you protect the peak energy hours of your mornings for your best work. </p> <p>#2. Stop waiting for perfect conditions to launch a great project. Immediate action <img style="margin: 6px 0px 2px; display: inline; float: right" title="robin_sharma" alt="robin_sharma" align="right" src="http://lh3.ggpht.com/-6hn-mkyCIE0/UGP8VtvddiI/AAAAAAAAZTg/4dDgSIC2DgY/robin_sharma%25255B6%25255D.jpg?imgmax=800" width="180" height="240" />fuels a positive feedback loop that drives even more action.</p> <p>#3. Remember that big, brave goals release energy. So set them clearly and then revisit them every morning for 5 minutes.</p> <p>#4. Mess creates stress (I learned this from tennis icon Andre Agassi who said he wouldn't let anyone touch his tennis bag because if it got disorganized, he'd get distracted). So clean out the clutter in your office to get more done.</p> <p>#5. Sell your TV. You're just watching other people get successful versus doing the things that will get you to your dreams.</p> <p>#6. Say goodbye to the energy vampires in your life (the negative souls who steal your enthusiasm). </p> <p>#7. Run routines. When I studied the creative lives of massively productive people like Stephen King, John Grisham and Thomas Edison, I discovered they follow strict daily routines. (i.e., when they would get up, when they would start work, when they would exercise and when they would relax). Peak productivity's not about luck. It's about devotion.</p> <p>#8. Get up at 5 am. Win the battle of the bed. Put mind over mattress. This habit alone will strengthen your willpower so it serves you more dutifully in the key areas of your life.</p> <p>#9. Don't do so many meetings. (I've trained the employees of our FORTUNE 500 clients on exactly how to do this - including having the few meetings they now do standing up - and it's created breakthrough results for them).</p> <p>#10. Don't say yes to every request. Most of us have a deep need to be liked. That translates into us saying yes to everything - which is the end of your elite productivity.</p> <p>#11. Outsource everything you can't be BIW (Best in the World) at. Focus only on activities within what I call "Your Picasso Zone".</p> <p>#12. Stop multi-tasking. New research confirms that all the distractions invading our lives are rewiring the way our brains work (and drop our IQ by 5 points!). Be one of the rare-air few who develops the mental and physical discipline to have a mono-maniacal focus on one thing for many hours. (It's all about practice).</p> <p>#13. Get fit like Madonna. Getting to your absolute best physical condition will create explosive energy, renew your focus and multiply your creativity.</p> <p>#14. Workout 2X a day. Exercise is one of the greatest productivity tools in the world. So do 20 minutes first thing in the morning and then another workout around 6 or 7pm to set you up for wow in the evening.</p> <p>#15. Drink more water. When you're dehydrated, you'll have far less energy. And get less done. </p> <p>#16. Work in 90 minute blocks with 10 minute intervals to recover and refuel (another game-changing move I personally use to do my best work).</p> <p>#17. Write a Stop Doing List. Every productive person obsessively sets To Do Lists. But those who play at world-class also record what they commit to stop doing. Steve Jobs said that what made Apple Apple was not so much what they chose to build but all the projects they chose to ignore.</p> <p>#18. Use your commute time. If you're commuting 30 minutes each way every day - get this: at the end of a year, you've spent 6 weeks of 8 hour days in your car. I encourage you to use that time to listen to fantastic books on audio + excellent podcasts and valuable learning programs. Remember, the fastest way to double your income is to triple your rate of learning.</p> <p>#19. Be a contrarian. Why buy your groceries at the time the store is busiest? Why go to movies on the most popular nights? Why hit the gym when the gym's completely full? Do things at off-peak hours and you'll save so many of them.</p> <p>#20. Get things right the first time. Most people are wildly distracted these days. And so they make mistakes. To unleash your productivity, become one of the special performers who have the mindset of doing what it takes to get it flawless first. This saves you days of having to fix problems.</p> <p>#21. Get lost. Don't be so available to everyone. I often spend hours at a time in the cafeteria of a university close to our headquarters. I turn off my devices and think, create, plan and write. Zero interruptions. Pure focus. Massive results.</p> <p>I truly hope these 21 productivity tips have been valuable to you. And that I've been of service. Your productivity is your life made visible. Please protect it.</p> <p>Stay productive. Via Robin Sharma . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-21476419250187378152012-09-05T05:37:00.001-07:002012-09-05T05:37:30.233-07:00In solitude<p>For those who are not frightened by the solitude, everything will have a different taste.</p> <p>In solitude, they will discover the love that might otherwise arrive unnoticed. In solitude, they will understand and respect the love that left them.</p> <a name='more'></a> <p>In solitude, they will be able to decide whether it is worth asking that lost love to come back or if they should simply let it go and set off along a new path.</p> <p>In solitude, they will learn that saying ‘No’ does not always show a lack of generosity and that saying ‘Yes’ is not always a virtue.</p> <p>And those who are alone at this moment, need never be frightened by the words of the devil: ‘You’re wasting your time.’</p> <p>Or by the chief demon’s even more potent words: ‘No one cares about you.’</p> <p>The Divine Energy is listening to us when we speak to other people, but also when we are still and silent and able to accept solitude as a blessing.</p> <p>And when we achieve that harmony, we receive more than we asked for.</p> <p>By Paulo Coelho Via Facebook !</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-78037383632213429732012-08-18T06:42:00.001-07:002012-08-18T06:42:03.781-07:0026 Successful People Who Failed At First<p><a href="http://theburiedlife.tumblr.com/">THE BURIED LIFE</a> is four regular guys on a mission to complete a list of 100 things to do before you die and to help and encourage others to go after their lists. </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Thanks to the Buried Life team for this wonderful post.</p> <p>1. <strong>Winston Churchill</strong> failed the sixth grade. He was defeated in every public office role he ran for. Then <a href="http://www.winstonchurchill.org/learn/biography">he became</a> the British prime minister at the age of 62. </p> <p>2. <strong>Thomas Edison’</strong>s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Edison also <a href="http://www.thomasedison.com/biography.html">famously invented</a> 1,000 light bulbs before creating one that worked. </p> <p>3.<strong>Harland David Sanders</strong>, the famous KFC “Colonel,” couldn’t sell his chicken. More than 1,000 restaurants rejected him. But <a href="http://www.biography.com/people/colonel-harland-sanders-12353545">then one did</a>, and today there are KFC restaurants bearing his image all over the world. </p> <p>4. <strong>R.H. Macy</strong> had a history failing businesses, including a dud Macy’s in NYC.But Macy<a href="http://foundationsofamerica.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=390:rh-macy-a-co-bldg&catid=56:public-buildings&Itemid=68"> kept up the hard work</a> and ended up with the biggest department store in the world. </p> <p>5. <strong>Steven Spielberg</strong> was rejected from his dream school, the University of Southern California, three times. He <a href="http://www.variety.com/article/VR1118001840">sought out an education</a> somewhere else and dropped out to be a director. </p> <p>6. <strong>Charlie Chaplin</strong>’s act was rejected by executives because they thought it was too obscure for people to understand. But then they took a chance on <a href="http://www.charliechaplin.com/en/filming/articles/51-The-First-National-Shorts">Chaplin</a>, who went on to become America’s first bona fide movie star.</p> <p>7. <strong>Marilyn Monroe</strong>’s first contract with Columbia Pictures expired because they told her she wasn’t pretty or talented enough to be an actress.</p> <p>8. <strong>Soichiro Honda</strong> was passed over for an engineering job at Toyota and left unemployed. But then he began <a href="http://www.fundinguniverse.com/company-histories/honda-motor-company-limited-history/">making motorcycles</a>, started a business and became a billionaire. </p> <p>9. <strong>Vera Wang</strong> failed to make the U.S. Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue and was passed over for the editor-in-chief position. She <a href="http://www.biography.com/people/vera-wang-9542398">began designing wedding gowns</a> at 40 and today is the premier designer in the business, with a multi-billion dollar industry. </p> <p>10. <strong>Walt Disney</strong> was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Several more of his <a href="http://voices.yahoo.com/walt-disney-american-icon-lived-american-11426476.html">businesses failed</a> before the premiere of his movie Snow White. Today, most childhoods wouldn’t be the same without his ideas.</p> <p>11. <strong>Albert Einstein</strong> didn’t speak until age four and didn’t read until age seven. His teachers labeled him “slow” and “mentally handicapped.” But Einstein just had a different way of thinking. He later <a href="http://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/physics/laureates/1921/einstein-bio.html/">won the Nobel prize</a> in physics.</p> <p>12. <strong>Charles Darwin</strong> was considered an average student. He gave up on a career in medicine and was going to school to become a parson. But as <a href="http://darwin-online.org.uk/biography.html">Darwin</a> studied nature, he found his calling. </p> <p>13. <strong>Sir Isaac Newton</strong> was tasked with running the family farm but was a miserable failure. <a href="http://www.biography.com/people/isaac-newton-9422656">Newton</a> was sent off to Cambridge University and became a physics scholar. </p> <p>14. <strong>Dick Cheney</strong> flunked out of Yale twice. George W. Bush <a href="http://articles.cnn.com/2001-05-21/politics/bush.speech_1_yale-graduate-yale-vote-commencement?_s=PM:ALLPOLITICS">once joked</a>: “So now we know –if you graduate from Yale, you become president. If you drop out, you get to be vice president.”</p> <p>15. The first time <strong>Jerry Seinfeld</strong> went onstage, he was booed away by the jeering crowd. Eventually, he <a href="http://www.couragetoconquer.com/post/23479591761/jerry-seinfeld-and-how-it-feels-to-get-booed-off-stage">became a famous comic</a> with one of the most-loved sitcoms ever. </p> <p>16. In Fred Astaire’s first screen test, the judges wrote: “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” <a href="http://books.google.com/books?id=g3Ze9ohE0cYC&pg=PT124&lpg=PT124&dq=%22Can%27t+act.+Can%27t+sing.+Slightly+bald.+Can+dance+a+little.%22+grant&source=bl&ots=tWscGSF-Ts&sig=fYrfj0cTRUSy2f84zlFFD_oPcdo&hl=en&sa=X&ei=bEsIUMrnB4fl0QHz7L3wAw&ved=0CFIQ6AEwAw#v=onepage&q=%22Can%27t%20act.%20Can%27t%20sing.%20Slightly%20bald.%20Can%20dance%20a%20little.%22%20grant&f=false">Astaire</a> went on to be the most famous dancer of all time and won the hearts of American women forever.</p> <p>17. After <strong>Sidney Poitier</strong>’s first audition, the casting director instructed him to just stop wasting everyone’s time and “go be a dishwasher or something.” He went on to win an Academy Award and is admired by actors everywhere.</p> <p>18. <strong>Oprah Winfrey</strong> was fired from her television reporting job because they told her she wasn’t fit to be on screen. But <a href="http://www.oprah.com/pressroom/Oprah-Winfreys-Official-Biography/">Winfrey rebounded</a> and became the undisputed queen of television talk shows. She’s also a billionaire.</p> <p>19. <strong>Lucille Ball</strong> spent many years on the B-list and her agent told her to pursue a new career. Then she <a href="http://www.biography.com/people/lucille-ball-9196958">got her big break</a> on I Love Lucy.</p> <p>20. After his first film, <strong>Harrison Ford</strong> underwhelmed the producer and was told he would probably never succeed. But today <a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000148/bio">Ford</a> is the third highest-grossing actor of all time.</p> <p>21. <strong>Vincent Van Gogh</strong> only sold one painting in his entire life, to a friend. He <a href="http://www.vangoghgallery.com/misc/bio.html">sometimes starved</a> in order to create the 800 paintings he’d eventually do. Today, his works are priceless.</p> <p>22. <strong>Dr. Seuss</strong>’ first book was rejected by 27 different publishers. He’s now the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/30/education/dr-seuss-book-mulberry-street-turns-75.html?pagewanted=all">most popular</a> children’s book author ever.</p> <p>23. <strong>Henry Ford</strong>’s first auto company went out of business. He abandoned a second because of a fight and a third went downhill because of declining sales. <a href="http://www.biography.com/people/henry-ford-9298747">He went on</a> to become one of the greatest American entrepreneurs ever. </p> <p>24. While developing his vacuum, <strong>Sir James Dyson</strong> went through 5,126 failed prototypes and his savings over 15 years. <a href="http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/115/open_next-design.html">But the 5,127th </a>prototype<a href="http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/115/open_next-design.html"> worked</a> and now the Dyson brand is the best-selling vacuum cleaner in the United States.</p> <p>25. <strong>J.K. Rowling</strong> was unemployed, divorced and raising a daughter on social security while writing the first Harry Potter novel. J.K. Rowling is now internationally renowned for her 7 book Harry Potter series and is the <a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/writers/writerdetails.asp?cid=855300">first person to become a billionaire from writing.</a></p> <p>26. <strong>Stephen King</strong> was initially so frustrated with his first novel, Carrie that he threw it in the trash. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Life-Worth-Living-Lorrie-Kruse/dp/0984725431">King’s wife</a> found the manuscript in the trash and took it out. To date his 49 novels have sold 350 million copies.</p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-86165425258553786912012-08-10T11:34:00.001-07:002012-08-10T11:34:33.438-07:00To a Blessing in my Life !<p>No one probably know about me more than her ! </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>Yet she know not of the dark passenger in me , her love for me is such that she just cant see it . </p> <p>Earliest memories are vague , but those sand castles we built together were just priceless . My love for that spectacled  little girl is eternal . </p> <p>I never understood her after that , we took different paths and all the time I never realised what I was missing , but in my heart I always loved her . </p> <p>As they say time is the greatest healer , because all those pains and heartbreaks I caused had no other medicines , still she loved me the same . </p> <p>Distance is the greatest friend , it makes us realise the love of loved ones ! oh how much I missed in all those years … but time is unforgiving  . </p> <p>Fortunately for me she was always there ,understanding and  patiently waiting for me to see the reality , she always believed in me even when I didn't in myself  ! </p> <p>The day I realised that I was blessed to have her is the day I made a vow to never leave her ,always be there for her . </p> <p>As life goes on , we are separated again , but I know she is always there for me and me for her ! </p> <p>I am not poetic or emotional , just remembering all the good times I had with her ,here love is taken as purest form between a brother and a sister . </p> <p>The lady here is my dear sister Radhika Kiranmai ! who came to earth on this day a few years earlier than me to receive me . I love you kiran ! Happy Birthday . </p> <p>India is a emotional land , here emotions are in huge proportion's just realised it . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318877838096875074.post-30825782427615334752012-08-10T03:39:00.001-07:002012-08-10T03:39:59.292-07:00Just an observation in life .<p>You never know ,what you will ever know.Life is a paradox , a choice game ,a chaos with universal rules which no one knows . </p> <a name='more'></a> <p>But in life there are few rules which every one tries to live by and are accepted by most of us just to survive , but to those of us who like to live and not merely survive these rules may not apply . </p> <p>If you know how to listen ,you can learn even from a person with a foul mouth , how not to talk like him . Life is lesson we learn everyday , we learn bad things ,good things but only time will tell why we learnt them. </p> <p>One lesson I learn recently is this you should not ask questions to which you don't want to know answers . Just asking the question and listening to things you don't want to know , or just leaving the question out there hanging with out ever trying to know the answers is very bad . </p> <p>It will change you , it will block flow of the energy in you .</p> <p>Asking or not is always a choice , you have to be very wise to realise the timing and the situation .</p> <p>Or some times you just have to ask it , all questions are not equal ,some carry more weight than others . so choose your questions wisely , who knows the next question you ask may change your life . </p> kalyanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04097262772342839946noreply@blogger.com