Confidence is like C vitamin to our body ,which will help you to fight your fears and make you stronger and better ,Fear is death and Confidence is life In our daily life we will have to take many decisions and some may be tough and Important ones, you need confidence to take them and that too without fear.
Fear kills you in more ways than you probably know ! But to kill fear there is only one way and that is confidence . there is always a thin line between doing it correctly and overdoing it .Only I can do is over confidence ,I can do it is confidence.
Every one will have fears even those who confidently overcome it also will have fears and its not an issue because those who are confident will overcome any number of problems,every small act we do to over come our fears will boost your confidence and once you know how it feels like there will be no looking back.
A small thing like asking a question will also need confidence,every thing in life is interrelated ,with fears about every thing in life you are nobody .. to be yourself at all times there is only one key and here are some ways to charge your confidence..
Self-confidence is a state of mind !
Confidence Is some thing you have to develop and its not hereditary,Every person will have confidence but the levels of confidence vary from person to person , there is no person in world with ZERO confidence level, Increase in your confidence levels depends on your efforts .
Its easy to to get disappointed and discouraged , there are many reasons why people will have low self-confidence ,the way they are brought up,continuous criticism from friends or family members,External Appearance ,educational grades, many many simple things in life will make a huge impact.
You can be whom ever you want in life ,when some one says you cannot do it ,or discourage you in all possible ways real joy will be showing him by doing that thing. You have to visualize it and put all your effort in it , because rocket needs more fuel during launch than to cover entire mission..
I am no guru , I am just a normal person like every one in this planet ,just trying to help and do my part .. you may not need all the points I mentioned here and you may not like some or so , here are those points …
1. Wake up early : Wake up early , Waking up early will give extra time which you can use wisely for developing you confidence ,taking a early morning walk or jogging ,makes you feel special , when most people you know are still sleeping you are up and running .
2. Spend the morning wisely : A day well started is a day well spent ,Try some thing like yoga or exercise If possible meditate , most importantly don't check mails or all that official stuff , dedicate the 1st hour of morning completely to your self . read some inspirational quotes ,or videos or read Biographies .. TED talks is also a good idea ..
3. Visualize yourself as best : We are what we think ,so You should be very confident and brave in your own eyes,if you don't trust your self who else will ? so bet thing is have a very good self image and keep it improving daily , so that your inner thoughts of your best image will become you ..
4. Power of positive thinking : by Norman Vincent Peale , read this book and Life will never be the same ,being positive and avoiding all negative thoughts will give a good boost to your confidence, really having a positive approach in life toward the things that you fear will make a huge difference.Be positive at all times in life you will see the difference.
5. Stay away from Negative Thoughts : Negative thoughts will ruin all your efforts in a moment ,imagine you have a beautiful rose garden and you love it so much , you take a lot of effort to keep the plants away from pests and weeds ,but you neglected on some pest and next morning all the plants may die , this is same way with mind , one negative thought and its all kaboom . so try to stay away from negative thinkers and thoughts .
6. Know thy self : Remember Matrix ,every time Neo goes to see Oracle she shows him one quote ,Know thy self.. More you know about yourself,you will have solution to every problem and then there will be no fears which is root cause of low confidence and you cannot be defeated why you know yourself. think about this point more deeply . Knowing yourself is not that easy .
7. Action to Reality : You cannot be perfect the art of confidence in a single night , so what you have to do is try to implement slowly in real life , try to act more confident than you really are and slowly the acting part will become real and implementation is more important than just reading .Try to act Confidently ,talking ,walking, make it inseparable and soon it will become you.
8. Have the Heart of Buddha :Confidence is out put of your thoughts and action,if you have weak thoughts and sinful actions you will have no confidence, have kind,compassionate and generous
9. Practice makes a man Perfect : You have to deliver a presentation and you are afraid that you cannot do it what to do ? Practice it as many times as you can ,read every thing there is read about the topic and stand in front of a mirror and Imagine you are giving a real presentation and keep doing it .any thing in life can be learnt by practicing and by practicing you will kill the fear ..
10. What is your MANTRA : Have a positive phrase in your life as a mantra , I can do it . I will be best in my job ,some thing which is very related to your job or personal goal and keep saying it ,and it will become the top priority of your life and will help your attitude develop.
11. Master your Field : What ever job you may do you need to know every thing about it ,more knowledge you have about your field more confidence you have ,more comfortable you will be and also then there will be no inferiority for you .
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12. One step at a time : Why we loose our confidence easily because we think the day we start doing some thing we expect to be master in a single night, many will expect a lot in the beginning and we get disappointed when the reality is some thing else, do it one step at a time and make a daily progress ,consistency is the key which will produce everlasting results
13.Less is more : To improve your confidence in life you need to know your fears and weakness so that you can improve yourself,trying to do too many things at a time is not a good idea, Do a few things or only one thing at a time and focus all your energy on to it ,you will realize the potential in you , once your realize what your capabilities are there is no turning back ..
14. Interact with wise People : Everyone is wise in their own way ,but when you are with confident and clever people you will learn amazing things,good habits like bad ones are also contagious,catch them and moving with a good circle of friends or colleagues is very important ,because they motivate and inspire you ..
15. Light up the darkness : People imagine things, also we fear unnecessary things and we worry a lot and this is all negativity in life,while learning a bicycle we will fall ,that's obvious ,after falling for first time will you stop learning ? In life also no one is perfect in every thing , one may laugh at you of some mistake,to err is human , don't take it too personally ,try to learn from that mistake and try not to repeat it . light up the darkness in you with patience and hard work
16.Remove the T : remove the T words from I Cannot ,never use this word at all . Many battles are won before they began and if you are mentally decided i cannot do this ,before you do it , then you cannot do it ,Success is gasoline for Confidence only with positive approach you can achieve success which you need in order to be a confident person.
17.Get Inspired :There are many reasons why people have low levels of confidence and lower self Image ,one of the best ways to improve your self image and confidence is by getting inspired . Inspiration is such a powerful way it will change your life faster than you imagine . there are many blogs ,websites that are trying to inspire lives with their posts. Authors like Paulo Coelho ,Robin Sharma have written wonderful books read them to be inspired.
18.Smile and share : Keep smiling at all times ,the good times,bad times don't let your conditions decide your happiness and also have a few good friends,they play a crucial role,share with them let them know what you are thinking what your problems are ,you know when you are successful every one wants to be your friend ,but those who are there with you from beginning of your journey ,encouraging you, sharing your good and bad times they are the real ones listen to them.they makes you feel special .
19. Make a decision today : Today make a decision ,what ever I do ,I will be world class in my job and strive for it ,when you take these lines seriously you will understand every thing I said in above points.It may be Pizza delivery to chip making what ever you do ,don't think about how you are now, take a pledge and deliver world class performance.
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20.Knowledge is everything : Having more knowledge in life will drive away 90 % of your life problems,it may be spiritual,geographical,historical or any thing Knowledge is Knowledge ,Those who have good knowledge will automatically be confident.Wisdom will make you understand world in a better manner .Knowledge is the purpose of human life and more powerful knowledge you have more powerful you will be . When you read more on a particular topic your mind will analyze it and once its elaborated in a certain direction it will never be the same again .
Watch a horror movie for first time your mind wont have any knowledge about it ,that's why it creates the tension,the anxeity and once you watched it you now have knowledge ,go and watch it for second time … now your mind knows what will happen now,who is gonna die or what ever you cannot enjoy the movie just like the first time its litreally impossible.
Same way life works , you are afraid of some thing and you cannot do it and fear it ,that means you have low level of confidence in that particular thing ,It may be hard or tough but if do it one time , now your mind knows how it feels like and now try to do it ,its not that tough right !
What are your ways too improve confidence ,share with us , help us continue the discussion with your valuable comments.I wish you all the success and confidence in life ..
Namaste : Kalyan
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